The Only Comparison You Need To Make Is With Who You Were Last Year.
This is perhaps the best advice anyone can give to someone who is starting out on a new journey of building their own online income… or any business for that matter.
Comparing yourself to other people doesn’t help you at all… it does the opposite and can cause more harm than good.
You see, when you compare your position to someone else’s, it can leave you depressed if you see that you are not doing as well as the other person.
Imagine that you had seen a guy doing the same stuff as you but he was making $10,000 in passive income each and every month just six months after starting, but you were two years in and still only making $1,000 every couple of months.
That would be quite demoralising, wouldn’t it?
You will probably spend the week feeling depressed and even consider giving it all up.
The fact that you are earning an extra $1,000 in passive income every couple of months should be celebrated, but as you want to leave your 9 to 5 you believe that the failure to go beyond that figure doesn’t give you anything to celebrate.
To quit now would be foolish because you are comparing your results on the results someone else is getting… without knowing what is actually going on behind the scenes.
Imagine that the person you were comparing yourself with started like this:
- They had enough money to cover their living costs for several years and were not working a 9 to 5 and so were able to dedicate all their time on this new project.
- They had $10,000 to invest in the project.
- They paid people to do specific tasks for them so that they could get on with other tasks.
- They used paid advertising and specific tools to promote their efforts.
- Their partner was also involved in the work doing a lot of the admin stuff behind the scenes.
- They are either childless or their children had flown the nest and so they had no children to think about each day.
They had all of that going on while you were:
- Working on this project alone at evenings and weekends.
- Working a 9 to 5 job to earn money to pay the bills.
- Have children who need your time and attention.
- Have a partner who needs your help and wants to spend some ‘quality time’ with you.
- Have no spare funds to invest in the business.
Comparing yourself to that person now looks ridiculous, doesn’t it?
There’s no way you could compete with that.
I like to think of two friends who decide to each buy a plot of land and build themselves a new home for their family.
One guy builds the house himself using basic hand tools. Using a shovel he digs out the trenches for the foundations and he fills those trenches with hardcore and concrete using a wheelbarrow and cement mixer that he hand fills with sand, water, and cement.
He builds the walls himself with bricks that he moves around the site in his wheelbarrow.
This guy does everything himself. He fits the roof, he plasters the walls, he fits the doors and windows, he instals all of the pipework and electrics, he paints all of the walls.
He does everything!
Whereas his friend, he has $100,000 in the bank and pays a team of builders to do the work for him. The team consists of several builders, a couple of labourers, a couple of carpenters, one plumber, two electricians, and several groundworkers.
The construction team uses big machinery such as diggers, forklifts, dumper trucks, and the concrete is mixed off-site and delivered in a big truck and tipped straight into the trenches.
So, which of the two friends finished their house build first?
It’s quite an easy question to answer.
With a house build that has a team working on it using big machinery you can clearly see what is happening, but in the online world it’s not so easy to see.
Most of what goes on is done behind the scenes and very often offline.
Comparing yourself to someone else… or rather, comparing your results with someone else’s results is foolish because you simply do not know what their life and work circumstances are.
In the Freedom Hustles Podcast below, I discuss with John why you need to stop comparing yourself to other people.
Freedom Hustles Podcast Episode 053 – Why You Need To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
I can’t recall the details, but I’m sure that I read that he was a young man at the time living with his parents and so a lot of the daily household stuff was being done for him and he was able to sit in his room and just churn out article after article and share them far and wide.
Plus, he was young and had an abundance of energy and natural discipline. Another factor to think about is that no two humans are built the same.
We may have a lot of similarities, arms, legs, feet, hands, and a head etc, but we also have a lot of differences under the hood such as food intolerances, biological abnormalities, allergies, and differing energy levels.
As much as people like to say that we all have the same 24 hours in a day, we don’t… it’s more complicated than that.
Comparing yourself to other people is just harmful to your progression.
There is a reason why people with ‘thick skins’ succeed. They don’t care what people think of them… and they don’t care where they are in relation to other people.
They don’t compare.
Remove the O M P from compare and you have care.
They don’t care what other people are thinking or doing, they only care about what they are thinking and doing.
All that matters to them is where they are now, where they are going, and where they were this time last year.
The only person you need to compare yourself against is a previous version of yourself.
For example, a couple of years ago I was looking for a way to generate an extra $1,200 each month.
I wanted the money to invest in a few projects, buy a couple of courses, and to cover the additional costs of relocating to Portugal from the UK.
I found a way to make that money and today I am still earning that extra money.
Go back even further, and I was working in a factory in the UK during the day while working on my online endeavours in the evenings.
Today I am working remotely as a freelancer (amongst other things) from my office here in Portugal.
I am in a completely different position to what I was all those years ago… and you know what?
That’s all that matters to me.
And that should be all that matters to you… where you are today in relation to where you were a few years ago.
Anything else is just harmful and pointless comparisons.
If you are happy with what you have then that’s great, if you are not, then you carry on doing what you are doing going after what you desire until you are happy… what other people are doing or thinking is irrelevant.
Until next time.
Have a great day.
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